November 27, 2010

Our 15 year old son finally returned at about 10:00 this morning after being out all night.  In confronting him about being out  all night and about taking the cell phone things erupted.

He said that he contacted someone to pick him up just before midnight  last night and sneaked out his window.  A friend had come over about  10:30 and had been waiting outside until our son was able to sneak  away.  They went over to another friends and supposedly went to sleep  (although calls were made on my cell phone constantly up to 3:47 am).   At 5:30 am, they left his friend's house and went to the mall for  Black Friday Sales.  They called a friend's mother and had her take them to the one friend's house that had been hanging outside of our house last night.  The grandmother of the friend (she  has lost several family members through gang violence, including the  friend's parents which is why she is raising her grandson) asked where  her grandson had been all night.  He told his grandmother that he was at our  house all night.  Our son confirmed that is where he was.  Our son was told that he could not stay and that is when he came home.  As he came  home we confronted him about my cell phone that he took and about his  mother's charger.  He gave them both back. 

He talked us into letting him go over to a friend's this afternoon  because they were to work on the friend's brother-in-law's lawn and  this would be a way to earn money to pay toward his ticket for  throwing golf balls over the by-pass and hitting a car.  He was told  to be back by 9:30pm.  At 9:40pm, I called and the friend that he was  with said that the last time they were together was at about 7:00 pm.

At about 10:30 pm, he called and asked if he could spend the night at  another friend's house.  I told him no, that he needed to come home.   He asked why and I told him I will come and pick him up.  He responded  that he could get a ride home.  I told him that it was no problem,  that I was very willing to pick him up.  He told me that he was at  Spring and 23rd.  So I went to pick him up and did not find him.  I  called the cell phone number that he had called me on and the kid told  me that our son was no longer there but had left.  I drove around and  around the area blocks hoping that he had just given the wrong  intersection but no luck.  Then I went to the house of the kid that he  used the cell phone.  An older brother was home and said that his  brother was not home.  (At this time it was 11:50 pm).  So I finally  returned home.

It is now almost 1:00 AM and he is not home again. This will be our  third sleepless night.  We are totally exhausted and do not know how  we are going to be able to continue this.